Category Archives: Belonging

We are ALL Needed to Make This World

It is so easy to judge.  As people, we are pretty lax about giving value to things that we don’t fully understand.  That is why we often limit the respect we give to others with less money, or education or ability than we may have.  However, people born into poverty, lack of opportunity or lack of skills, are not less valuable.  If anything, they are the ones that can teach us the most.  

We all find it easy to love people like ourselves.  We don’t like people to disagree with us.  But those are the ones who can teach us to listen, seek common ground and find compromise. Those who look different than we do or have a different background than us, give us an opportunity to learn how to step into someone else’s shoes.  

Others, who have less education, can give us the opportunity to find resources that will even the playing field.  If one is disabled in some way, another person can look for and find ways to make things more accessible.  Every one of us has something to give to the world.  When it is hard to figure out what to do in any situation, the key is using whatever one has for the good of others.  And it is important to remember that even if it looks or seems like another person has little to offer to oneself, this does not make it true.

Some people think they know the value of another person.  But that does not make it true either.  We all have limited vision, knowledge and understanding.  No one is perfect, not one of us.

If we can find the ways that prejudices impact our thinking, we can expand our capacity to show compassion and learn to have empathy for our fellow human beings.  Only then, will we find out why we are all needed to make this world.  Only then, will we begin to see the ways we are ALL needed in order to make this a better world for everyone.

Do Unto Others (The Golden Rule)

Anyone who has ever had any religious training or even had a lesson on how one should deal with others, surely has heard, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  Maybe the message was, “Treat other people the way you want to be treated.”   Whatever the actual words, the meaning was clear.  Be nice.  Be fair.  Be decent.

It seems to me that with the current political climate, the animosity toward people not like ourselves, the inability of people to put themselves in other people’s shoes, the denial of people to take responsibility for their actions and other problems we face in today’s world, we are forgetting this simple, basic precept.  Why is it so difficult do unto others reciprocally?

One person never has all the answers.  Cooperation requires us to see things through another person’s lens.  Indeed, this is the truest path toward a lasting peace.  So why don’t we do this out of self-interest?  Isn’t it better to live in harmony than to be at odds with others?

Some of the best moments in life are when people are bound together for a common goal that benefits everyone.  How can any person have faith in mankind if others have not considered them as important as anyone else?  Every person has value and deserves to be considered.  If one grows up without being valued, that person cannot be a part of the conversation.  When this happens, there is a break in trust that can foster deep unrest.  We unwittingly create bullies by doing this.  This affects everyone negatively.  It is in everyone’s interest to care about each other.  Do unto others.  

When I ignore the plight of other people’s tragedies, I become part of the problem that plagues our world.  The humane reaction to disaster or catastrophe is not to say, “It’s not my problem.” The answer that brings peace is, “What can I do to help?”  As simplistic as it may sound, just looking at things through a lens of love and understanding toward humanity could shift our collective minds to a compassionate mode of thinking.  The world can change when we change our minds.  Do unto others.

 

A Message to My Friends: Sometimes I Talk Too Much

Sometimes, I talk way too much.  Just adding a few words while someone is speaking, for verification, or even support, is not always welcome.  I can unintentionally be rude and not get it until after the damage is done.  Or, I can get so jazzed about something that it can be overbearing.

Other times, I can just talk on and on about something when I am upset, causing other people to be distressed in the process, only to have me feel better, while leaving them,  disturbed, in my dust.  This can be abusive to kind-hearted people who are within earshot.  And I am immediately sorry, but at times I just can’t control myself.

This is my version of “venting,”  which I fear could air-condition a gymnasium.  I sincerely hope that I am overstating this behavior.  Why do I do this?  I am not always like this, thank goodness. But what makes me so verbose and emotional?

My friends don’t seem to mind.  Maybe they just have a high tolerance of me.  Or perhaps they are just patient enough to know that if I go on long enough, I will eventually tire and move on.   I am so grateful that they care so much and that they can endure my foibles.

My mother has always been so good to me, allowing me to “get it out of my system,” as she puts it.  And she will just let me go on and on until there is a natural end to my passionate tirade and I am spent.

I hope that I am the kind of person that is there for my friends, as she is for me.  I pray that the people I love and care for so deeply, find me to be the silent, supportful friend that they need me to be when they are in distress.

Either way, I am determined to do better.  I will attempt to curb my passion, or distress, or excitement, when it surfaces and begin to tame this beast inside of me.  Try to forgive me my lapses, for surely I will have them, and allow me the chance to become the kind of friend that everyone deserves.