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Finding One’s Soulmate

I am honored and delighted, looking forward to witnessing the marriage of my niece soon.  It causes me to reminisce about my own life’s journey.  I remember how not-looking-for Mister Right, made me run right into him.  Sometimes, the best way to find something is to stop looking for it.  I wasn’t looking for it in the first place, but found it just the same.  

Maybe that’s why we call that person, with whom we want to share every aspect of this life, a soulmate.  The soul works from a much higher consciousness than we ever can with our human brains.  Spirit enters through the heart instead.  It’s a saving grace that can keep us from thinking too much.

Somehow, when it happens, we just “know” it is the right person.  Not every person will find their soulmate in marriage.   Not everyone wants to do so.  Some of us, may prefer to go it alone, or choose another path.   But for those who do find one, life is shared, for better and for worse.  This is because once the deep connection is made, it may be damaged, but it can be healed if both parties can forgive.

While one can only have one soulmate in a marriage, we may have other people with whom we share intimate bonds, a soulmate of a different kind.  These are the treasured friends with whom we share deep convictions.  They are lifelong friends with which one never loses touch , even when they may not have been “in contact” with them for long periods of time.  These are the people we are able to continue a conversation with even after years may have passed.  This is a relationship that just picks up where it left off.

Regardless of the circumstances, soulmates are gifts beyond measure.  Truly, if one is fortunate enough to find a soulmate(s), life has more meaning and satisfaction.  We all deserve this.  May we all have the opportunity to share ourselves in this way.  For this, I pray.  Amen.

 

Love and Marriage (written October 6, 2017)

Well, today is my 44th Wedding Anniversary, so I thought I’d write about this experiment that some of us choose to endeavor.  I say “experiment” because when a person undertakes the prospect of living with someone for the rest of his or her life, there is no way of knowing what the future will be, and yet, you promise to go through it all with this person.

As for me, I remember having a plan for my life.  I was going to have a career first, then after I was established, in my mid 30’s, I’d marry and have a family.  I was young then, and didn’t know anything about how all that would work out.  It was just a scenario I had played in my mind and it seemed reasonable.  Little did I know about how unlikely it would be to find someone I wanted to date, let alone, marry, if I started looking in my mid 30’s.

But then, I fell in love with my best friend.  Soon, it was clear that my plan had changed.  And so, we married.  We were young, in love and happy.  We had children, a girl and a boy.  They were happy and healthy.  We were so blessed.   

We still are.  And yet, we have had hard times.  We have struggled.  I often think of the times when money was tight. Life was tough, but we were still happy.  We were in it together and together we made it work.  Those were the days we found out what we were made of.  Those are some of my fondest memories.

Time passed and challenges came and went.  We got through them with various degrees of pain and suffering.  Our fathers died.  We grieved them terribly.  Our first grandchild was born and we were there to witness it.  Unbelievable joy and wonder filled our souls.  Our son died. Horrible grief gripped us and clouded our joy.  It was the hardest thing we had to face and suffer.  We survived, but not unscathed.  We eventually healed.  And we grew.

And so, we continue to live this life with which we have been blessed.  Now we have 3 grandchildren.  And life goes on.  And we go through it all . . . together.