Success is a word that has multiple definitions.  In the 21st century, many people think of success in monetary terms or accomplishments.  This is a perfectly valid way to measure one’s success.  However, success can also be found in relationships with people.  If one has rich, meaningful connections with other human beings, if one can be of service to others and share one’s gifts and talents, success can be evaluated by what one can give, as opposed to what one possesses.

The positive aspect of this view is found in the goodwill one feels when giving of oneself.  There is opportunity for internal growth that can only increase as one’s relationships mature, akin to the way money grows when it is invested.  We each have a choice to make as to what rewards we wish to reap.

I used to work in nursing homes and I learned a lot about life.  When one is in the last stages of one’s existence, the things of importance become clear.  One may have a healthy bank account, portfolio and plaques on the wall and that is good.  Others, not having that kind of wealth, may be rich in loving relationships.  In the end, if people do not have people who care deeply for them, the money and trophies may not give the dividends one needs the most.

When one wants to be comforted, things are not capable of giving that to us.  Only people can call and visit us when we are sick or feeling down. The touch of a hand, a loving look, a smile. can mean the difference between contentment and isolation.  It is heartbreaking to see the loneliness I have witnessed.

When people have outlived friends and even family, they still can find joy in others who live around them.  But it is unlikely that one will acquire the ability to connect with others if they have not acquired this skill.

To me, the message is clear.  Whatever you devote your time to, whether it involves people or things, your future will be determined by your values.  Make sure that you consider this before you come to the final chapters of your life.  Then, the book you have written will have the ending you desire.  In the end, only you can decide whether your definition of success has served you well, or not.