Constructive criticism can be a tricky thing.  If a person needs direction at times, the way in which it is done is key to the effect it has on the one being criticized.  I have witnessed this in schools when I was a substitute teacher.  The best teachers, whom  I observed when I was in this position, were the ones who understood this concept.  A good teacher knows the damage that criticism can do to a student if it is done in a way that attacks the ego.  Most teachers understand how to correct without the student feeling “judged.”  If a teacher is not sensitive to a student, it can damage his or her self-worth.

This is not only true for children. It is also detrimental to adults.  It has happened to me on occasion, and it hurts.  The double whammy comes when you feel embarrassed and trapped in the situation.  It’s difficult to know how to react.

I am reminded of the words: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”  If I say this sentence and do as it says, I can begin to compose myself and go on with my day.  But the fact remains that it is hurtful.  Feel it and let go.  Do it for yourself.  Be your own best friend.

Let it be said again, that criticism is a tricky thing, both to give and to receive.  There should be a course on it.  I’d sign up for it in a heartbeat, because I never want to do this to someone else.  Do unto others, Lora.  Always be aware of your words.  They matter.  And so does every person, even those who may hurt us along the way in our lives.  Just “do unto others.”  “Amen”, again I say “Amen.”